HAVE YOU BEEN FEEL IN LOVE

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HAVE YOU BEEN FEEL IN LOVE?

• The X post by Christian author Roselyn Van Dyk shares a 55-second promotional video for her 2024 book “The Power of Love: Grace-Based Relationship,” featuring stock footage of couples facing challenges such as illness and conflict, with text overlays on enduring love, perseverance, and God’s role in relationships.
• The video highlights themes of Grace, trust, forgiveness, and commitment, drawn from Gospel principles. It ends with an Amazon purchase call for the paperback or ebook focused on 12 practical relational commitments.
• Van Dyk, a self-published devotional writer based in Australia with a background in business administration from the Philippines, began her faith-focused book ministry in 2007 after a reported spiritual calling and has authored multiple titles on praise, prayer, and biblical living.

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Explore grace-based relationship principles.Grace-based relationship principles draw primarily from Christian theology, where “grace” refers to God’s unmerited favor—His love, forgiveness, and kindness extended to people despite their flaws, sins, or failures (e.g., Ephesians 2:8-9; Romans 5:8). In relationships—especially marriage, but applicable more broadly—these principles shift from a performance-based (“law”) approach (where love and acceptance depend on behavior, perfection, or earning approval) to one rooted in gospel transformation: receiving God’s Grace and extending it to others.

This creates space for authenticity, healing, and growth rather than resentment, score-keeping, or conditional love. It echoes Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33) and models relationships in accordance with the Gospel.

Core Principles of Grace-Based Relationships

1. Unmerited Favor and Unconditional Love
   Love is not earned through perfect behavior but given as a gift, mirroring God’s love “while we were still sinners” (Romans 5:8). In practice, this means choosing kindness and commitment even when your partner falls short, rather than withdrawing affection or demanding change first.

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1. It frees partners from the pressure of constant performance and fosters a sense of security.
2. Forgiveness as a Lifestyle
   Regular confession, repentance, and mutual forgiveness reflect God’s forgiveness in Christ (Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13). Grace doesn’t ignore sin but covers offenses with love (Proverbs 17:9) and seeks restoration instead of punishment.

2. Key: Release resentment quickly; don’t keep a ledger of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5).
3. Patience, Kindness, and Bearing with One Another
   Recognize both people are “works in progress.” Patience (a fruit of the Spirit, Galatians 5:22) gives space for growth without condemnation. Respond to conflict with gentleness rather than retaliation.

4. Service and Self-Sacrifice
   Follow Jesus’ example of servant leadership (John 13:1-17). Prioritize your partner’s needs, outdo one another in honor (Romans 12:10), and view marriage/relationships as opportunities to reflect Christ’s self-giving love.

5. Grace Over Law: Rescue Mentality
   When a spouse “falls into a ditch” (struggles, sins, or fails), extend a hand of help rather than judgment (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). Sin has no dominion where Grace reigns (Romans 6:14). This transforms conflict into connection.

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6. Healing, Trust-Building, and Letting Go
   Address past wounds (personal or relational), take responsibility for your own happiness/joy, and protect the bond. Assume the best, speak kindly, and let God’s Word shape the heart.

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Practical Commitments (Inspired by Roselyn Van Dyk’s The Power of Love: Grace-Based Relationship)Van Dyk’s book, tied to the original query, outlines 12 gospel-centered commitments for relationships (applicable to marriage, dating, or close bonds):

• Grow and adjust daily priorities together.
• Build strong trust collaboratively.
• Practice regular confession and forgiveness.
• Identify and let go of what needs to be released.
• Heal past self-inflicted wounds.
• Sow love intentionally (it grows where planted).
• Allow God’s Word to root love in your hearts.
• Guard your joy and don’t let others steal it.
• Own your happiness instead of blaming each other.
• Pause (count to ten) before reacting in words.
• Handle differences with appreciation and Grace.
• Actively protect the relationship.

These emphasize proactive discipleship over crisis-only intervention. Benefits and Transformation

• Reduces Conflict: Grace redirects focus from offenses to support and rescue.
• Builds Resilience: Relationships thrive on Christ’s perfection, not human effort.
• Reflects the Gospel: Marriage/relationships become a living picture of God’s covenant love, drawing others to Christ.
• Fosters Freedom: “Four freedoms” in some teachings include space to be different, make mistakes, grow, and experience healing without fear.

Challenges and Application Tips: Shifting to Grace requires humility, reliance on the Holy Spirit, and often community or counseling support. It doesn’t mean enabling abuse (boundaries and safety remain essential) or ignoring wisdom—it means responding from a transformed heart.

• Daily prayer for God’s Grace toward your partner.
• Regular check-ins focused on encouragement, not criticism.
• Study passages like 1 Corinthians 13, Ephesians 4-5, or Colossians 3 together.
• Seek grace-filled mentoring or resources like The Grace Marriage by Brad & Marilyn Rhoads.

Grace-based principles invite relationships to mirror divine love: imperfect people, perfectly loved, extending that love daily. They promote depth, healing, and joy rooted in the Gospel rather than fleeting performance. For deeper personal application, reflecting on Scripture and, perhaps, discussing it with a trusted mentor or counselor can be transformative.

I did! In those days, we called it “crush.”  However, I didn’t fully understand being in love or being in a crush. When we’re younger, especially in our teenage years, we usually meet a young boy in elementary or primary school, then high school and college. If we live in the village, we meet them somewhere in the marketplace neighborhood, and when there is a get-together, dancing sessions, celebrations, fiestas, feasts, and gatherings. Boy and girl meet together.  Men and women meet in their workplace, anywhere they can meet their destiny, even under the coconut trees, near the river, and bushland.

This is when we think we fall in love with this person as your perfect lover. It’s lovely to consider when we read in the novel about our dream boy or girl as your types, such as tall, dark, and handsome, for men, pretty face, tall and well-shaped body.

The first time we met our crush, we thought, that’s it! We couldn’t sleep because we thought they were our dream person and the right one. I called it daydreaming, and it was full of fantasy. Why do we keep thinking about this person so romantic that it’s like Romeo and Juliet? We watched the movie and pictured it holding hands together and feeling we had never been this happy.

I lived in Australia for over 40 years but originally came from the Philippines. I have more stories about these issues in the other chapters.
I will tell you about my own experiences growing up. In school, I seemed attractive to men during my younger days. I am not perfect regarding my physical body, for I am short.  I have this heritage from my ancestors: my mother’s side has fair skin. Primarily, our ethnic heritage as Filipinos is brown skin. It could be as they described charisma, but when I became born again Christian, I considered it as “grace” that is in me. I studied these subjects from their teachings when partnered with the ministries. So, I could have a favor in jobs and other things that seemed very advantageous in me wherever I walked in every walk in life—also, women when it comes to friendship.

It’s the moving Presence of God. One of the first things you must recognize about the Presence of God is that it’s just a place you come to visit. Exodus 33:14 says, “My presence shall go with thee, and I will give thee rest.” (KJV)

In Biblical terms or spiritual stuff. Did you catch that? God said to Moses, My presence shall go with thee. With all the power and peace it brings, the Presence of God can go with you wherever you go. You can carry it to work or the grocery store, school, jobs,  accommodation places, and wherever you are.

The presence of God ought to be such a tangible or fundamental part of who you are that people will notice something different about you. They even say, I don’t know what it is, but there’s something powerful about that person. That’s the presence of the God of the universe with you and in you. Me, too! I got that gift and unmerited favor in those days. Even in those days, I couldn’t understand myself. I question myself, saying, what have I got that I have this favor? I just discovered that later when I became Christian again in 2005. Something in me attracted people, not only suitors and admirers but women, to give me favors in the past. There were just changes in 2005. I seemed separated, isolated, and set apart, which I called my “silence years.” I didn’t understand at first, but when I read Psalm 31. I lost my friends because I was being set apart to be protected from the snares of the enemy and using people for rejection, persecution, and other harmful things to harass me as I studied the Bible, worshiped the Lord, and sought Him, which I was seeking and searching Him in (Matthew 6:33).

Excerpt from Roselyn Van Dyk’s available in Amazon.com Kindle store. As I noted from the graph of my WordPress that is still the higher in feedback. These books titles are The Power of Love, The Fulfillment of Marriage, and There Are Ten Languages of Love. I acknowledge there are so many who are interested in my marriage journey regardless of odds.

Readers, you read this book now because you need it. I pray these books will give you insights and enlightenment to know there is hope for your relationship to survive.

Your views and valuable feedback are very important to me. Please leave your reviews and ratings on Amazon.com Kindle Store platform. It also gives me inspiration and encouragement to others. I invite you now to grace upon your thoughts and insights. Thank you.