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GET REAL-TO MAXIMISE YOUR MARRIAGE LIFE

If you’re married, listen up. If you’re single, I’ve got some wisdom and advice for you, too. If you’re living together but in love and have the same in common, you may decide to vow for marriage. Getting to know first is better than rushing or pledging in marriage.

In Puritan times, we had to get married, even if it was a prearranged marriage, according to the traditional custom or culture, even though they didn’t love one another. Maybe it’s the tradition of some countries that have been arranged by parents or families, for whatever reason. But I still believe in the commitment of matrimony. My husband told me, “It’s your culture, but things are different here in Australia or other Western countries. I said, “Look, I am a Christian.. and strongly believe in my culture and spiritual aspect of life.” Look! I pray to God, for I believe those things are not as they were in the Bible. I wait for whatever manifestation of what I am praying for.  Many things are very complicated, but I don’t lose hope.

What’s the use of having a big wedding celebration with many people such as friends, family members, and others? If the two couples wanting to get married are unhappy, it’s a loveless life. The parents or relatives who arranged the marriage are not living with you! It’s just bogus. On the other hand, regardless of the situation, they may develop their love as time goes by. Still, some are doomed for failure, but mostly, they are successful marriages. Mostly, they stick to one another to protect their reputation and what others may say or talk about them. They wanted to protect their families from gossip.

God designed the institution of marriage or closed relationship for your partner that may lead to marriage. I think it’s a good idea that you know well first before you intend to commit to marriage. He wants to see our communities, society, churches, and nation entire of healthy, God-honoring marriages.

There is no sense in talking about victory in the boardroom, office, and other places when you’ve got trouble in the bedroom. There is no use in preaching love for your neighbors when you’ve lost the passion for your spouse. We can no longer ignore the problems.

Many of you are still single, or your relationship with your partners is waiting for the right time. I believe they should know one another and get to know how it goes better than jumping to elope or get married if both of you are still unsure if you’re compatible with one another with different interests. Maybe you’re single when the world says it’s alright to trail or be a player for the sake of being married because most of your friends and mates are already married. You want to be counted in a circle of marriage in the sphere of influence.

For those who are already married, I want to strengthen what you have. I hope there is great hope and power for your marriage today! God doesn’t give up on marriage when society does.

If you’re still searching for the right one or are currently single, I have encouragement for you and something that will teach you how to maximize this season of life. Please don’t give up your destiny.

Married or single, God is a redeemer; he is a restorer. He is the giver. The Lord gives you beauty for ashes, and nothing is too complicated for Him to give to your own loved one in life. When two people can sacrificially love each other, that’s highly powerful. I called that an “outgoing concern.”That is one of the secrets to love that lasts. It’s not a selfish attitude. This is for me, gemme, gemme me! But give and take.

In my marriage life, I married a man who is disabled but very capable of looking after things. By grace, our marriage became very strong as time went by due to understanding and perseverance. He has the potential to be a good husband. Therefore, there is more to be adjusted regarding our marriage life. As others see it, it’s a difficult marriage. Still, it’s not a convenient marriage between two of us who have love and, simultaneously, with so much understanding by both of us. He is good at something that I am not capable of doing! I helped him in some ways that he couldn’t do. He also helped me in ways that made my life happier and more convenient.

Let me put it this way: I can share it with you based on our situation.

• Some days, you will have to give more than your spouse. You must shoulder the load of other duties and demonstrate grace.
• On other days, your spouse will need to give more than you. They will have to help bear your burdens.
• And every single day you’re together -neither of you will be enough, which is why your spouse and most.
• Love never fails and refuses to quit. For others, they probably gave up a long time ago.
• We need to have the attitude to give and take or unselfish attitude.

The world will offer plenty of opportunities to give up on marriage and to quit waiting for the spouse God is preparing for you. With the grace of God, you can stand firm because of the fruit of the Holy Spirit.

Galatians 5:22 says, “But the fruit of the Holy Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience (long-suffering), kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self–control.”(NIV).

Our model of marriage is the level of communication. Jesus had the ultimate connection with the Father.

Much generic marriage advice is given on talk shows, magazines, and self-help books. Still, Christians understand something that the world doesn’t: Love is found in the Bible.

Excerpts from the books of Roselyn Van Dyk: The Fulfillment of Marriage, Ten Love Languages, The Power of Love and other books on Amazon.com Kindle store.

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